How My Brain Works vs How My Dad Does Things

Young people scoff at older folk. They think that they know how to do things better. They assume they are more up to date and savvy, especially when it comes to practical and technological things. For example, I always search the Internet for help with any project. I always find what I want—and fast. My dad, by contrast, is of the old school. He uses manuals that have seen better days. He relies on his memory and what his dad taught him. I have to admit that this method usually works well in the long run. After all, he is a well-schooled DIY handyman. Thus, when I needed a new toilet, I first turned to the Web and found a page called Rate My Toilet. I like to select products based on real user testimonials. What does dad know about self-cleaning, auto flush, hands free features, and the like.

I told him about my new quest and every day I had a new report. I liked this version one day and that model another. I couldn’t make up my mind. I printed pages of descriptions and made ample notes. The hunt for a mundane object went on and on. “Let me help you,” he asked seeing my consternation. I dismissed him as old fashioned. He wouldn’t know how to select what is right for me. He would think what I like is too expensive and fancy.

As time went on and I grew stubborn about my long, drawn-out process, he was getting annoyed and stopped talking to me about the new toilet. I had labeled me as indecisive in his mind. Where was the respect! I was on my own swimming in a sea of information. He was right. I couldn’t come down to the final selection. I couldn’t get enough of Internet research. It all got so complicated and became a jumble of options.

When I seemed to be reaching my breaking point, and I was close to failure, my dad called to say that he was coming over in his pickup truck. He usually drives a car to my house. So, I waited and he arrived in about an hour with a brief knock at the door. As I opened it, I saw a white round object in the back of the truck, shining for all it was worth. It was a porcelain throne, as they say, ready for installation in my bathroom. Dad soon had the old one out and stowed on the truck for disposal. Wow. The toilet was so nice. “I got in on sale at the home improvement store,” he beamed. “They had so many in all sizes and prices. And it was quick. I could see them all at once.” I understood the implication about my obsession with the Internet.

The toilet was a beauty, a reasonable purchase, and had all the bells and whistles anyone could want. Okay, dad. I give in. You know your stuff. He didn’t smile smugly, but just wrapped his comforting arms around me with love.

How Not to Land a Part

There are lots of ways to get a part. There are lots of ways to not get a part. You have to learn both of those if you actually want to get a part in time. For one thing, you have to check as many listings as possible in order to get a part, or you’re going to miss out on a lot of great opportunities to get an audition. You have to make sure that you’re going to be able to give yourself as many chances to succeed as possible, and that is really going to be difficult for a lot of people. If you can do that, though, you’ve already helped to give yourself a huge step forward.

You don’t want to pester the casting director or anyone else like that, for one thing. I’ve been tempted to do that, but unless you’re already connected to the casting director, that really isn’t going to work for you. You need to have a lot of connections in order to get ahead in acting and theater easily, and if you don’t, you’re just going to have to work a lot harder. That’s what I have to do and that’s what everyone has to do at that point. You gain the connections later. You can’t force them.

You also have to make sure that you land a part in the right place at the right time. There are lots of phony places for an audition today. You have to check up on all of the places for an audition to make sure that the audition is actually real. If you’re anything like me, you hate to consider the possibility that someone is laying and there’s part of you that wishes everything were as straightforward as it is in other areas of life. You can’t trust that calling for an audition is going to be a straightforward exercise, though, because that’s not going to be true in many cases.

Debate with Dad

One of the great advantages of living at home as an adult is that you continue to interact with your parents on some level. You know longer feel that they are protecting you at every turn as you remain independent. But you do rely on them for food and shelter and you try to offer something in return. Maybe you do chores around the house or the yard or you run errands and do the grocery shopping.

When I am around my dad, I often seek his advice and he in turn seeks mine. It makes for some interesting conversations and debates. It can be trying at times depending upon the subject. Even trivial issues can be blown out of proportion. Given my Asperger’s, dad doesn’t bait me with silly requests. But things come up that can become a problem for someone who is less than patient. For example, the hot water keeps running out when I want to take a shower. If I am not the first person of the day, I am out of luck. You can hear me complain quite often. It is so frustrating and the lack of hot water has really become a pet peeve. Many things are for me; it’s in my nature, but this time I want to draw the line.

I tried to convince dad to buy a new water heater and that a good tankless model would be best. Why at this stage, would you want to go old fashioned. I know the tankless are more expensive, but they also save on utility costs. I started a debate with him over its advantages, but he remained stubborn and unconvinced. It did get his attention when I said the whole family would be appreciative of his foresight to buy the right thing. But it didn’t do the job and I had to continue on praising the tankless water heater to the skies. I went to a supplier and got some literature so he could read the pros and cons and select the perfect size for our home. I also told him that they were inexpensive to install and that any handyman could do it. In fact, the supplier would send over someone qualified if we bought the item from their store. How easy is that! Dad was a little more open and there was hope that we would soon end the debate. I might get hot water in the morning soon enough. I wanted to be guaranteed of a great shower to start my day. It would relax me and prepare me to cope well with what the4 day would offer.

To end the story, we did get the tankless water heater and had it properly installed. They hauled the worn-out old model away and I was not sorry to see it go. Glorious hot water was ours the very next day. The tank we selected was economical and perfect for the number of people who lived under one roof. Oh happy day!

My Pre-Audition Routine

Going to an audition really shouldn’t be that scary. You show up, you say the line, and then you leave. If they call you, great. If not, then you just keep on going and you have to hope that people are going to call you another time. The human brain is not perfectly rational, however, and that is not the way it is for a lot of us. We tend to act like our lives depended on the results of the audition. Reminding yourself that this is not the case is just not going to be enough in many cases.

I think that this gets easier as you keep on going in the world of theater. Eventually, all of your auditions blur together so much that you’re not going to have to worry about the ones that didn’t go so well unless something really embarrassing happens, and it probably won’t. However, that still isn’t going to make people feel much better if they’re still in the beginning stages. It doesn’t feel like that’s where I am. I feel like I’ve been on lots of auditions. I’m still a college student, though, and I’m way younger than a lot of actresses when they get their big breaks, so I guess I am still at the stage where each audition really feels like it matters and it will make or break your career.

One of the biggest problems for me as a person on the autistic spectrum is that I can have a hard time with sensory overload problems at times if I’m outside of my comfortable element. With an audition, comfort is going to be a big problem. I sometimes rock back and forth for a little while before an audition in order to calm myself down a little bit. It gets you into a state of flow, and that can be really important to someone like me.

I always rehearse the line a little bit before the audition. I try to make sure that I have everything memorized, even if the speech in question is really long. I want to make sure that I really do have everything down, and you really can’t do that unless you have memorized all of it and you have gotten to the point where you have rehearsed the speech or the line from many different angles. I like to make sure that I have really memorized everything and that I’m going to be able to give the best performance that I can.

Obviously, there is a point where you really have rehearsed too many times and you’re going to sound like a person who is basically reading the lines off of a billboard. You have to get past that stage, too. Once you’re past that stage, you can finally really give the performance that is going to make you famous, or at least, the performance that stands a really solid chance of you getting through your audition and into something that you’re going to remember positively for the rest of your life.

My Favorite Film

I have a lot of favorite movies, even though as a person on the autistic spectrum, I have a hard time with movies sometimes. For one thing, lots of scripts are written in such a way that a lot of the exposition and lines of dialogue are removed. There is this idea that an expression from an actor is going to tell you more than a whole passage of dialogue. I don’t think that this is true.

I think that this is just something that scriptwriters say so that they can be lazy. I also think that this is a function of the fact that you have to do everything in a really minimalist way if it is a movie. You only have two hours to work with and you have to make sure that every single line counts. I think that’s why I consider the 2011 film Margaret to be my favorite film.

This isn’t a film that a lot of people know about today, even though it isn’t an old movie yet. However, I really think that it’s a movie that manages to almost transcend the genre of movies. I have always liked books and television shows better than movies because they have so much more content and they are not as formulaic as movies, which are formulaic even at the best of times. Margaret is not a terribly formulaic movie, and that is why I like it so much.

The characters do not feel like they are just there in order to prop up the story. The characters actually act the way real people do, and that is not the kind of thing that you ever see in the movies. It isn’t just that the actors really act well, although the acting in the movie is very good. It’s that the conversations feel like real conversations because they don’t have a clean and streamlined formulaic look and feel.

I’m a stickler for accuracy in pretty much everything, and it’s great to see how real people actually are reflected in a movie. I really wish more movies would be like this, but movies have actually taken a step back. Margaret was actually filmed in 2005, and movies all throughout the 2010’s have been bad action sagas and special effects showcases. There are barely any well-written and quirky movies these days, and as someone who’s just a little bit quirky, I want that and I miss that.

I try to let movies like Margaret inform my performances. I feel that the movies these days may not get it, but that people really do like the more modernistic performances. Most of the shows that exist today are basically full of people just having casual conversations. They reflect the way people actually talk. I like that, and I think that movies should tend to feature more performances and effects like that instead of the action movie performances and action movie effects.

Maybe movies are not going to last. People might become so sick of them that they’re going to just stick to television, which is much better these days anyway, and which is getting more and more fans all the time. Then again, maybe movies are going to change. I have a hard time watching really old movies from before the 1970’s because the acting tends to be very melodramatic. I also don’t like all of the huge musical stabs. Movies today are not like that. They reflect reality much better. I think that the movies in the future are probably going to be like that. At the very least, they are probably going to have to be like that.

As an actress, I can’t wait to see how movies and acting will change in the future. Actors used to be told to be as dramatic as possible. They were not told that they should try to act like people do in real life. In fact, if they did that, people would have said that the performance was really boring and that they were just acting like everyday people and that no one wanted to see that happen. However, that really is not the case today. Today, actors are told that their performance is good if it is realistic. That is the performance that you have to cultivate if you want to be good today. I feel that the movie Margaret manages to show off how great that kind of acting is, and I think it is a movie that really reveals that mindset as well.

Fitting in at School

Fitting in at school wasn’t easy for me until around high school. I had a really hard time with all of the social niceties when I was in school. I ended up over-sharing with a lot of kids at school and they had a hard time getting used to me. I also had a difficult time when it came to not talking endlessly about stuff that I found interesting. It really created a situation where I didn’t have a lot of friends and almost everyone that I knew really liked to make fun of me.

One of the great things about high school and college is that it felt like everyone really grew up. Then again, it also probably just felt like that because I had changed and I had learned not to bother other people.

One of the things that have gotten better in my lifetime is that there is a lot more awareness about autism these days. I’m really young, I know, but the world changes really fast these days, and it looks like it is changing for the better. People barely even used to know about autism when I was a kid, or that’s how it seems. Or they thought that everyone who had autism was just like the brother in Rain Man. It’s getting easier and easier for those of us who are very mild on the spectrum and who do not have the savant syndrome that has characterized the portrayals of a lot of people on the spectrum.

People are more accepting of me, so that has definitely helped. However, I think I’m better at understanding them, and I know that this has helped a lot. I also think that this is one of the reasons why I decided to get into acting in the first place. I really wanted to learn how and why people do the things that they do, and I think that this is the sort of thing that has given me some ability when it comes to acting.

Maybe this would have been better if I had had some more intuitive understanding of why people do what they do. However, I really do think that I had an advantage as an autistic person who tends to understand how people behave in a more academic manner. Lots of actors have to go back and learn how to understand people in this manner as well. The thing is, I had to do that anyway. There are days in which I think that this has actually helped me. I’ve been trying to understand people intellectually for a long time, and some people in my acting classes only just started at eighteen. I’ve been trying to fake neuro-typical facial expressions for a long time as well. Basically, as an autistic person, I’ve been in acting school for so long that when I actually entered the real thing, it actually made everything a lot easier.

Why Do They Say Break a Leg?

Speaking as someone who’s a little bit on the autistic spectrum, I’ve never really liked expressions like ‘break a leg.’ I do know that they don’t mean to literally break your leg and that it isn’t an actual threat or anything like that. I have to work a little harder to remind myself of that, though, and I really don’t like to have to do that just so people can tell an overused joke.

Then again, I’ve accepted that this is really the kind of thing that’s just become a part of modern parlance, and I’m just going to have to live with it. I should probably give a little bit of an explanation for my fellow autistic travelers.

They say to ‘break a leg’ because that’s one of the worst things that can happen. The idea is that if you ironically mention that something bad is going to happen, and then something good is probably going to happen instead. At least, that’s how a lot of people mean it when they say to break a leg before an audition.

A lot of people don’t even think about what the expression means these days. It could really mean anything to a lot of people nowadays. Being able to break a leg before an audition is one thing if you think about it ironically, but for a lot of people, you may as well be saying ‘blah blah blah’ before an audition, and it would mean the same thing.

Today, people mean this ironically because the irony was a very basic form of expression for a long time, and it still is today. In the past, people did not use irony as often as a basic means of communication. People were more superstitious in the past, and the phrase ‘break a leg’ reflected a superstitious idea that things in the theater that are bad luck are actually good luck. As such, you would have to wish bad luck on someone in order to give him or her good luck in reality.

We know that this expression has been used in print since Edna Ferber’s 1939 work, ‘A Peculiar Treasure.’ It’s been used in a lot of movies, television shows, books, newspaper articles, and even theatrical reviews since then. This expression is not going to go away any time soon, although people still are probably not going to be using it forever.