Tuesday, June 26, 2012
Getting Old Sucks
I was suppose to have an enjoyable vacation with my daughter and sister. Okay, it wasn't going to be 100 percent enjoyable. Part of it was going to involve doing an intervention with our dad to try and convince him that it was time to move to an assisted living arrangement. We knew this was going to be a huge battle.
Life has a weird way of throwing curve balls at you sometimes. We didn't have the talk. Actually, we couldn't have the talk. As soon as we arrived to see him, my dad broke his hip. We spent the entire trip holed up in a hospital. My sister is still there, making sure he's comfortable and preparing to make arrangements for his future living situation. Independent living at home is not an option anymore.
I would love to be one of those people who age gracefully and live to be 110 with no health problems. But that doesn't really seem very possible, I'm afraid. Most of us will develop health issues and need medical assistance. Lots of medical assistance.
The average age is now about 81 years for women, 77 years for men. I'm just over the halfway point for women. My eyes are going. My hearing is going. My memory is going. At this rate, I hate to see what I'm going to be like when I hit 81. If I should be so lucky.
I think when it's my time to move into assisted living, I'd like it to be a cruise ship. The costs are high enough, right? Might as well make a nice, long vacation out of it.
I suppose the bar tab would get kinda high.
Getting old sucks.
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Sorry you are dealing with this... Though, as an aside those life expectancies are calculated from birth. So if you've survived to age 30, or 40 (or much older, like your dad)... then your life expectancy is higher than 77. If that helps brighten your perspective at all! :)
ReplyDeleteNot really! My dad isn't doing well. But thanks for the kind words!
ReplyDeleteCheryl, I stumbled across your post. There is such a push-pull between parents' understandable desire to remain independent, and our adult child's desire to keep them safe. Throw in a little guilt, family conflict about "what to do about Dad" and you have quite a stew. Oh, and usually a health crisis gets thrown in there somewhere I don't have great answers, either, but I am blogging like mad about it to work through my own feelings. Best of luck... (I blog about my Dad at http://thehenrychronicles.com)
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