I'm sure everyone has seen all the hoopla around Time Magazine's Article: "Are You Mom Enough?" My husband subscribes to Time (not for much longer) but I haven't had a chance to read the article yet.
I know a lot of moms who do attachment parenting. I also know a lot of moms who don't do attachment parenting. Whose kids do you think will grow up to be the happiest?
I think both sets of kids can grow up to be happy, well-adjusted adults. Making kids feel loved and secure helps pave the way for them to grow to be happy adults. I don't think attachment parenting is the only way to achieve this goal. I also don't think attachment parenting guarantees that children will feel loved and secure.
Nevertheless, when Moms love their children, they are mom enough. It's just that easy!
Over the weekend I found a website where moms have a chance to vent their feelings. At least, that's what I thought it was at first. After reading some of the entries, I realized it was a place for moms to vent about how they hate motherhood. These were clearly women who never should have had babies. Many posted things like, "I wish my baby died during the pregnancy." It was awful to read!
I finally stopped reading after one mom talked about how she left her family. Her one regret was that she didn't sign over her parental rights so she was stuck paying child support and seeing her kids when her former husband saw fit. She advised the other women on this board to not make her mistake. She advised them to sign over their rights and just leave, adding that when the kids grow up, they'll seek their moms out then and form a relationship then.
Oh joy!
Those women are NOT mom enough.
The rest of us are definitely mom enough!
Don't let the stupid media make you feel any less than you are! If you love your kids unconditionally you are mom enough!
Wow that was pretty sad. I can't imagine. I guess we all suffer from feeling like we aren't Mom enough sometimes but you make great points. As long as we're in the game trying and doing our best...we are enough!
ReplyDeleteSorry I haven't stopped by in a while! Hope you had a great mother's day.
ReplyDeleteMedia is an over-hyped, sensationalized, money making machine. If anyone listens to them, they are buying into that load of crap.
ReplyDeleteWow, that is so sad! People talk about "deadbeat dads," but you don't hear much about deadbeat moms! Although... I used to babysit two little girls whose mom had some mental health issues. One day I hadn't heard from the mom in a while, so I went to the girls' school, where I often used to pick them up. I was told they no longer went to that school, but nobody would tell me why. Come to find out, the mom had abandoned her kids, and they were in foster care now!!! :(
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