But there are times when complete honesty can be problematic. Like the time when I complain about being old, and she'll answer, "You are old!" She doesn't understand that there are times when honesty isn't always the best policy.
Last week, I was trying to get my daughter to get off the computer so she could make her gymnastics class on time. She was having a really hard time pulling herself away. A game she was playing wasn't doing what she wanted it to do, and she was refusing to turn off the computer off. The more she tried, the angrier I became, and the more upset she became. I finally threatened her with no computer time the next day if she didn't leave the computer at that moment. This worked, but she cried on her way to gymnastics. When we arrived, she told me that she didn't want to go.
I knew that she'd have a blast and that it would change her mood in an instant. The conversation in the parked car went something like this:
ME: The classes are expensive, and you should just give it a try. If you aren't having fun, you could tell the teacher you aren't feeling well and excuse yourself from the class, and I will take you home.
MY DAUGHTER: (giving me a horrified expression) I can't tell him that! It's not true!
ME: It's true! I didn't say to tell him you're sick--just that you're not feeling well.
MY DAUGHTER: But telling him I'm not feeling well is implying that I'm sick! Oh, never mind, I'll come up with something on my own!"
Of course, she didn't have to come up with any excuses. She broke into a huge smile as soon as she walked through the doors and had a great class!
She's only 7, and she's keeping me on my toes!