Tuesday, January 4, 2011

Friendships Are Important--and possible!

Between my daughter's social calendar and watching Academy screeners late at night, it's been hard finding time to blog! For one thing, my daughter isn't back at school yet. She doesn't go back until January 10th. Her school district has a three-week winter break. Isn't that insane? I bet it takes another two weeks for the kids to get back up to snuff!

I thought I would be going crazy during this time, but for the most part, the break has been going really well. It's been nice to sleep in a bit each day and not deal with homework. I think my daughter has been much easier to get along with without all the demands of school on her! Cool!

She has also been having some great interaction with her peers. On Friday we went to the park. She found 3 kids to play with and played with them perfectly--without any help from me! She also noticed an old friend from preschool, who she ran up to say "hi!" to. Again, without any prompting from me! I was floored! And thrilled!

The next day, we were at the park again for a playdate with a normie friend from school. My daughter played with her really well too. The girls had a great time! So, we were invited over to their house for a playdate yesterday. I hung out at the house for that one, since the mom and I were playing well together too! That playdate lasted six and a half hours and only needed intervention from me once during that time!

Before Christmas, she went to a friend's house for a cookie decorating party (while I had my mom blogger meet up with Dani G.). This friend had about 5 other girls there that my daughter didn't know. She did a great job interacting with the kids at that party also!

To say I'm thrilled is an understatement! Sure, my daughter has had successful playdates with other kids before. But a lot of them have been a bit spectrummy themselves. She's had successful playdates with other normie kids in the past, but I don't think she had so many within a week. While I can't say that she didn't get upset at all, I can say that the amount she did get upset didn't appear odd or "off!" I really hope this trend continues!

Not too surprisingly, after we left the marathon playdate last night, my daughter did get upset over a toy she gave to another friend six months earlier. It was obvious to me that she was actually having a hard time leaving the playdate, and it manifested itself in a strange way. While I wasn't happy with the next hour of off and on tears over little things, I thought it was a small price to pay for strengthing her bonds with her typical peers.

Things are not perfect yet. They probably never will be, but I will take the advances that I see! Heck ya!

16 comments:

  1. Wow, that is great, yay for a vacation full of playdates!!

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  2. Small moments or epic playdates -all milestones!
    And you sound bolstered, fulfilled and happy ... all good!

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  3. That is great! I worry so much about this in our future. My guy is only 4 and has 2 other special needs kids and 2 regular ed kids in his class so there is not too much room for things to go wrong. But I really worry about next year in a big room full of lots of different kids. So happy to hear your daughter is doing so well with social stuff!

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  4. Wow! That is so encouraging!! I'm so glad your break is going well. It's great to have these positive, memory-making times to look back on. =)

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  5. Forming friendships and interacting with peers can be so tough. I worry about whether Moe will have friends as he gets older. I'm so excited for you -- and for her!

    BTW, it's so cool you get to watch the academy pics. Many years ago I got to watch some, (they were still on VHS), and this annoying message played on the top of the screen saying "property of the academy" (or something) the entire time. So annoying! I assume they don't do do that anymore since everything is digital.

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  6. I have a 10 year old Aspie son ahe struggles with making friends. He finally found one friend at church and we are so excited for him. :)

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  7. Yay! How wonderful for your daughter. She sounds like she is making progress by leaps and bounds!

    BTW, I think this getting back on schedule thing is kicking me in the butt, so enjoy your relaxing mornings...kinda wish I had mine back right about now :)

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  8. That's great news! I love seeing children form friendships, they are just so cute.

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  9. Congratulaions! It sounds like your little girl is turning into quite the social butterfly. It looks like all your hard work (and worrying) has paid off. Oh yes, and a three week vacation for elementary school kids...I'm with you on this one. It is a bit insane. Enjoy the rest of your vacation with her :)

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  10. That's great. Griffin struggles with the "friends" thing on a regular basis. Then again, so does his dad.

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  11. Wow, that is really awesome. I wish Katie was doing that well. Maybe she would if, you know, she actually got invited to play dates or bday parties or the like. Eh, at least she is happy up in her room, filling up her Fashion and Smart Ideas (inventions) note book. Our girls are the same age, but I'm not jealous or anything...at all...yeah. ; )
    It's seriously wonderful she is doing so great.

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  12. wow sounds like she is doing really well. I love your term, "normie" friends....lol.

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  13. So happy to hear of her success. She is creating a great foundation for herself!
    I wish my son would show interest in other kids. He's just not there yet.

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  14. Wow...6 1/2 hours? That is some kind of marathon. The only thing I do for that long is sleep! She's doing great!

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  15. Great news. I'm glad you're able to appreciate these bouts of progress!

    and to Jennie B: yes, the DVDs still have a "property of movie studio" come on the screen now and then. It's still just as annoying!!

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