Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Indigo Girl

Jenny Matlock's Alphabe-Thursday link up is still on colors. This week, the color is indigo. That's right, not purple but indigo. Back on April 4, 2010, I wrote about "Indigo Girls." I decided this was a great excuse to republish that post! Here it is:

At a birthday party gathering over the weekend, a friend's mother approached me and said that my daughter is an "Indigo Child." She commented on my daughter's beauty, her wisdom, and her fiery temper. She said that "Indigos" were special children. They're psychic and have great powers.

Well, being as into the paranormal as I am, I googled "Indigo Child" when I got home and did some research. A lot of "Indigo Children" are believed to be mistakenly labeled as ADHD/ADD, according to the information on the web. Who knew? However, the "Indigo Child" is kinda last decade. The new class of children being born are the "Crystal Children." These are children who are late talkers. They start talking around 3 or 4, so a lot of these kids are "mistakenly" labeled autistic. Apparently, they aren't late talkers because they can't talk, they just communicate telepathically so they don't have to talk!

The information on these children explained that they are on the next evolutionary rung than "typical" children and should be understood for who they are. They shouldn't be given medication or any other kind of treatment because that would lessen what they are about and the purpose they're supposed to fulfill in the world!

As much as I'm into the paranormal, I'm not a believer in "Indigo" or "Crystal" children. I think the whole thing is hogwash. I can't understand how a dynamic of "survival of the fittest" would involve a class of kids who lack social skills and have difficulties with connecting with other kids. However, I do find an interesting parallel within the autism community. On the one hand, you have the group of parents who will do ANYTHING to cure their autistic child! They pursue biomedical treatments, special diets, no vaccination, and chelation treatments. They think there is a cure out there and will try anything that might bring it about. On the other hand, you have people who believe their autistic kids (or themselves if they are adults with autism) are perfectly fine as-is and do not need to be "fixed," but have their differences appreciated for what they offer. I mean, can you imagine Sheldon from "The Big Bang Theory" believing he needs to change? Of course, that's assuming the show's writers ever make him an official Aspie!

I find myself a bit in-between these two groups! I love my daughter's quirks--her specialness--that I don't want to see changed. But I do want her to fully experience the joys of life including having a great career, finding the love of her life, raising wonderful kids, and having as many friends as she would want in the world. Luckily, behavior therapy has been fitting the bill for our needs!

While I may not have an "Indigo Girl" for a daughter, I believe she is as special and wonderful as can be! And as healthy as can be too! What parent wouldn't be thrilled?

20 comments:

  1. I don't know anything about Indigo Children but I agree with you about being in the middle of the two groups of parents. We do what we can with meds and therapy but, in the end, we accept my son for who he is.

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  2. Oh, I really love your perspective on accepting her for who she is but also wanting to make sure she can overcome some of her challenges. Not easy, I'm sure but she sure seems well on her way to a super bright and fulfilling future. I never knew that term about "indigo children".

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  3. The first I heard of that indigo/crystal crud was from Jenny McCarthy. Natch. I can't get past the weirdo New-Ageyness of it. But I join you and Big Daddy in the middle.

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  4. Very interesting, I had never heard of that before.

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  5. I had never heard that term. Fascinating!

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  6. wow.. i just learned something.......very cool

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  7. I have a 17 year old son who was labeled ADHD! He has a term I think more appropriate. It is the dirtiest four letter word in the English language L A Z Y! My son is bright and funny and when he needs to accomplish something he can do it! I hate labels but I found the info on the Indigo Children to be very informative and interesting. Thanks for sharing further! Anne

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  8. You whole post was very interesting. Your daughter is very fortunate to have you as her mom. The last paragraph said it all.

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  9. I just love reading posts from parents who appreciate their children for what they are. How boring would life be if everyone was exactly the same? I love that you celebrate her specialness. Kat

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  10. wise words about indigo kids,
    I agree,
    more people shall know this...

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  11. But wouldn't it be nice if it were true? Kind of a beautiful thought.

    Maybe children like yours aren't the next evolutionary rung, but maybe they help the rest of us climb up to that next rung. Learning and growing. Becoming better people. Looking for everyone's gifts. Kind of nice thoughts.

    And new episodes of Parenthood are right around the corner. Are you as excited as I am?

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  13. I first heard this from Jenny McCarthey on Oprah. You have a wonderful perspective.

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  14. Someone just recommended I read the Indigo Child yesterday. I have not. I pry wont. I kind of feel the same way you do, Hogwash. But I bet there is something interesting, a little insite that might be gained? Oh, who knows - we are all a mystery after all aren't we?

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  15. Your daughter will have everything you want for her because she has such a wonderful advocate in you!

    God gives the most amazing children to the most amazing parents....

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  16. Your daughter is beautiful the way she is! I don't like any label on children, so I understand your perspective!

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  17. Your daughter is a lucky girl. It sounds like you are finding the balance on how to support and accept her differences at the same time.

    My niece is autistic and quirky as they come. We love her as she is. But my sister does everything possible to broaden her world.

    =)

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  18. I came across this term when I was researching indigo. I am so glad my special little boy loves to talk and talked early. I love his words.

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  19. When I opened this post I was intriqued by the title. It spoke or romance. It spoke of mystery with perhaps a little foggy ethereality floating around the edges of consciousness.

    And now that I've read it, it speaks of trying to name things and to find explanations for all that exists.

    I really admire the way you embrace your life and its blessings and challenges full-on, eyes wide open, heart at the ready.

    And even though I can't truly define all the reasons why, this post really spoke to me.

    Thank you for linking it.

    A+

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