Wednesday, May 26, 2010

The Sisterhood

I don't mean to sound like a nag, but if you haven't voted for my blog yet in Scholastic's "Parent and Child" top blogger contest, please do so! I'm going to need every vote. They're not showing who's winning anymore, but in my mind's eye, I'm losing and need lots and lots of votes! Thanks much!

Not back to the regularly scheduled blog...

I'm so excited because I'm going to see the new Sex and the City movie tomorrow! After I drop my daughter off at school, I'm going to hit the 9:30 am showing. I've already bought my ticket because I wouldn't be surprised if it's going to be really crazy at the theater.

What I'm excited about most is meeting up with some other moms! I don't even know these other moms that well, but when I do see them, I have the best time with them. I know them through one of the agencies that provides autism services to my daughter. On my daughter's journey, I've really enjoyed meeting the other moms who have children on the spectrum. They tend to be really fun and REALLY enjoy their "me time."

I'm not exaggerating at all when I say that there's a sisterhood among the moms who raise kids on the spectrum. We don't judge each other or each others children for one thing. We can be totally honest about our frustrations and depressions and the other moms totally get it. We can talk about our joys and triumphs that other moms may not really appreciate. But the other mothers in the sisterhood would! For example, if I told my friends who have neuro-typically functioning kids that my daughter initiated play with her friends, they wouldn't exactly start giving me high fives. They'd probably politely smile and say, "That's great!" and be a supportive friend. But if I told the moms in the sisterhood about that, I guarantee there would be whooping and dancing and true celebrating! It's a beautiful thing!

Only moms of kids on the spectrum know what it's like to feel like you're walking on eggshells all the time; that any moment a huge tantrum can erupt over literally nothing! Only moms of kids on the spectrum know what it's like to feel the judgment of other moms staring at them while this is happening, know that their abilities as a mother are being questioned and doubted. Only moms of kids on the spectrum know what it's like to have your days filled with different appointments: speech therapists, occupational therapists, behaviorists, social skills classes, among many other appointments. I could go on and on!

I guess that's why I feel so comfortable around these other moms I hardly know. Why we can laugh and cry so easily together! Tomorrow will be about having fun and forgetting about tantrums, and other issues for a couple of hours. Here's to the sisterhood!


  1. Have fun seeing Sex and the City. I'm jealous! I have to wait until next week.

  2. Hi your blog is brilliant. So honest and open as well.
    I am a Teaching assistant and have worked alongside Spectrum children and it is a hard job . Enjoy the film you deserve to
    Thanks for visit hope to see you again

  3. I'm thrilled that you've found a circle of women who get it. As the legal guardian of a child with undiagnosed attachment disorder (which manifested itself in violent ways), I know what it feels like to be looked at with disgust and disdain.

    The aloneness of it was devastating. Worst of all was not knowing what was wrong.

  4. okay...thanks for reminding me to vote - I did it!

    so.....its past noon....HOW WAS IT?????? I don't care if its bad, I just want to see them all together.

  5. I just voted! And I'm also waiting for a thumbs up or down for the movie.

  6. I discovered your blog through the contest - my friend at Booking Mama is also up for the books & reading category.

    I love it here, and have lots to read up on. Glad I found you and best of luck with the contest!

  7. I can only hope that one day I can connect with other moms with children like my son. I know no one with a child diagnosed with ASD... and it's very lonely. I understand what you're saying, I get excited over my almost 3 year old son pointing at a balloon in a book, and other people just don't get it. People also don't understand why I have a hard time leaving the house with my son all by myself. He throws tantrums and people just stare... It's very stressful :(

  8. I love how you call it parenting kids on the spectrum. Every mother who is doing that knows exactly what you are talking about and I thank you for this blog! Eggshells, looks from other mothers, excitement over a social victory - right on the money- thank you, thank you, thank you : )